Orgasmic Alchemy

Being Lovable-Embody Sacred Union

 

I am one of a Sacred Lodge of Women Shamans, Chiefs, Priestesses, and Healers. Each New Moon we gather virtually for two days of ceremony, led by Lodge Sister Karen Chrappa of A Structure for Spirit. This New Moon the Despacho ceremony honors the Sacred Union of the Masculine and Feminine within us. You are invited to participate in the ceremony in progress now. Please visit Sacred Union Despacho to join the ceremony.

 

Are You Lovable?

Romantic love, like all love, is born of a Desire for Spirit.

When two humans fall in love, they are enacting the first Love Story, the one that began Time itself. It is the story of the Divine Oneness of Spirit intentionally, playfully, separating itself into TWO, masculine and feminine, so that It may enjoy the BLISS of coming together in sexual union--the return to Oneness.

In Ancient India, the masculine was called Shiva and the feminine Shakti. Their o.rgasmic union of Love is Ananda--Bliss--one of the attributes of God, who is Eternal Bliss Consciousness. The deliberate play of separating and reunited of Shiva and Shakti through the ages of time is what continually creates the world and sustains life. Is it any wonder that the path of Orgasmic Bliss Union is way new humans come into the world?

This may seem too much to ask of mere mortals, who simply want to love and be loved in return. The grandeur, majesty, and mystery of Divine Union is pretty high expectation for a first date, or even a marriage.

Or is it?
We look to romance, love, and sex  to fill an emptiness, to complete our incompletion. We look to another person to prove to us we are lovable. Our natural yearning for Love is tainted with fear and anxiety that we are not attractive, lovable, and will never find love. This anxiety is mirrored back by finding fault with others as not quite right for us, or unworthy of our love.

And that, my Valentine, is the real burden of expectation --and fear-- that will break Love’s back every time.

The secret to being attractive is ancient, simple, and for many of us, deeply challenging:

To Love, Be Lovable.

Deepak Chopra writes on romance in his book The Path to Love.

    “Can we find another way to approach Romance … without listening to the fearful voice inside ourselves that finds a way to keep love at a distance? We can’t keep confining romance to an emotional state; we must redefine it as a surrender to the mystery of our own spirit, for beneath the turbulence of emotion that is what romance is. It is the state in which your primary relationship is not with your beloved but with your Self. Romance begins when you can show your soul to another person.”

Being lovable is not a superficial quality of physical attractiveness or behavior. Being Lovable is a quality of Spirit, which fills us and belongs to us naturally. Spirit is the truth of who we are. If we can see that, Chopra reminds us, the anxious searching for love can cease. Your own Being, because it is never lost, does not need to be found.

Those who cannot find love do not see themselves as being lovable.

What creates romance is the ability to see yourself as lovable.

This shift in perception happens not by changing who you are, but by seeing who you are and then shining it forth. If you were able to exhibit the full grandeur of your being, your whole life would be a romance, one long love story dedicated to ecstacy and joy.

Valentine, you are already all the Love you want. You are having a delicious romance with Self, your inner infinite Being. When you choose to come together with another Self, you are two Spirits who pretend to be separate for the sheer joy of coming together in Love. You are God expressing love for God.

You couldn't be more Lovable!

When the Holy Thaws

No one knows ECSTACY like St.Teresa!

Do you see  yourself in this poem as I did?

WHEN THE HOLY THAWS
 
A woman's body, like the earth, has seasons;
when the mountain stream flows,
when the holy
thaws,
 
when I am most fragile and in need,
it was then, it seemed,
God came
closest.
 
God, like a medic on a field, is tending our souls.
Our horns get locked with desires, but don't hold yourself
too accountable; for all desires are
really innocent.  That is what
the compassion in His
eyes tell me.
 
Why this great war between the countries -- the countries --
inside of us?
 
What are all these insane borders we protect?
What are all these different names for the same church of love
we kneel in together?   For it is true, together we live; and only
at that shrine where all are welcome will God sing
loud enough to be heard.
 
Our horns got locked with the earth and sky in some odd
marriage ritual; so what, don't worry.  We should be proud of
ourselves for everything we helped create in this
magic world.
 
And God is always there, if you feel wounded.  He kneels
over this earth like
a divine medic,
 
and His love thaws
the holy in us.
 
~ St. Teresa of Avila ~
 
 
(Love Poems From God: Twelve Sacred Voices from the East and West --
versions by Daniel Ladinsky)

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The Day I Met Desmond Tutu

My humanity is bound up in yours, for we can only be human together.~Desmond Tutu

Happy New Year!

Can you feel your True Power stirring within you?
Stay close to me this year. We’ve marvelous works afoot together!

The United States just celebrated the first national holiday of the year, the day-off that honors the birthday of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. I want to share two memories associated with Dr. King, one heavy and one delightful.

Darkness falls...
Late one afternoon in 1968, I was a teenage girl daydreaming and listening to the Beatles on the radio. It was getting dark, almost suppertime on the farm in Tennessee where I grew up. The music stopped, and a news bulletin broke in. Dr. Martin Luther King had been assassinated in Memphis, just 90 miles away.  

The news filled me with shame, and dread. In the South I grew up in, bones of the Confederacy were not laid to rest. My parents were on the other side of the civil rights issue. Civil rights threatened them and brought up all their fears. I had not yet formed my own opinions, though I am sure turning 13 in 1968 influenced my liberalization, as I began to think for myself. It was many years later, after I moved to New York City, that I began to study Dr. King and Civil Rights, and I learned how much we’d lost that day in Memphis.

His words ring more true to me with each passing year. This quote resonates for me this year, as we are all Occupying Love, Our Bodies, Our True Power:

The saving of our world from pending doom will come, not through the complacent adjustment of the conforming majority, but through the creative maladjustment of a nonconforming minority.
~Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

Half a lifetime later...
On January 18, 2009, It was the day after Martin Luther King Day, and the day after Barak Obama’s inauguration. Spirits were high in the nation’s capital, and all over the world. I was flying back to Maine from a meeting in Phoenix, Arizona. Sitting alone on a shuttle between terminals at Dulles Internation Airport in Washington, DC, I was joined by an entourage. A familiar and very happy elderly man sat across from me. His blazer bore an ecclesiastical emblem on the pocket. It was indeed Archbishop Desmond Tutu of South Africa. The shuttle filled with travelers, and the Archbishop’s assistant offered to take our pictures with him. I sat beside him and shared a few words, thanking him for his work.



You’ve seen him in videos, laughing and joyful as he speaks truth. That’s how he is. He was a keynote speaker at the Martin Luther King Day service at the National Cathedral on Sunday. Someone asked if he was at the Inauguration. No! he said, laughing. I didn’t have a ticket! He watched on television, and it was a magnificent day for the world, he said. He could not say it enough, how happy he was, how important and joyful this day was for the world. And he was right, in that moment!

It was over 40 years since that darkest day for Peace and Justice when Dr. King was murdered. I got to witness what it meant to the man who’d presided over the dismantling of South African apartheid and the restoration and forgiveness he mediated in his country.

Our work is not done, and never will be. The work of orgasmic liberation, true complete  self-ownership for all people is all our ongoing work. Peace is our purpose, the work of creatively maladjusted nonconformists.

It starts inside of you, and me.

Yes, stay close. We have important work to do together in 2012.


Desmond Tutu and Diva Carla: on the Peace Team!

I like this picture of the Archbishop and me even better than the one above. Even though it is blurry, this is more like the energy of the moment.

Your Pleasure Map: A Video

I've made a video series based on the Pleasure Map class I offer live and local.

Here is the first video in the series: Awakening

I welcome your comments!

 

 

The Bliss Path - Raw Gratitude and Self-Love

Stars set and the sun rises over new fallen snow on this New Moon day, Thanksgiving Day in the United States. Today is a national holiday of gathering, family, feasting, and dedicated gratitude for all our blessings and good fortune.

Horn of Plenty                             © Joseph Rael

My family is far away. I will be joining a crew of friends and strangers (making new friends) for feasting today. I greet the prospect of this day with anticipation of pleasure. This was a decision I made a few days ago, to choose pleasure.

The trip through the portal of 11/11 was a squeeze for me. Throughout the past two new moons, I’ve been shedding beliefs, feelings, illusions, delusions, habits and objects that no longer serve me. It got really personal when I got sick this month, a strange malady that left me feeling oddly hollowed out.

This week, my son announced he could not get away to visit for this holiday. And this morning I awoke to the sound of a waterfall in the basement, and no hot water, at least, not in the pipes!

I made a decision on Monday about how I wanted to feel this Thanksgiving and Christmas. I want to feel grateful, happy, and full of love for myself and other people. Leaky plumbing is not enough to shake that decision.  Am I a freaking saint?

“We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are.”― Anaïs Nin
I’ve been pondering  the wisdom of Sister Anaïs for a few weeks now. What does it mean that I see people, situations, circumstances as I am? Is it true that all of that out there is a mirror reflecting back to me what I am in HERE?

Mentally I subscribe to the idea that I create my own reality, in physical form as well as in a perceptual emotional way. What is sinking into my body and being these moons is that I can create my world from the power of Self--Love. It is the only power I have from which to make conscious choice.

I’m not talking about looking at the bright side of trouble, or being thankful for the simple joys and blessings in the midst of a flooded basement or a real tragedy.

I am talking about the Bliss Path. Joseph Campbell says the Bliss Path is a deep path. Once again, I am waking up to the truth that the path I am on is the Bliss Path. And you -- and every other person and circumstance--are on my Bliss Path with me.

Self-love is acceptance and appreciation of my divine perfection even while my messes pile up around me. My so-called screw ups, disappointments, resentments, mistakes, making shit up, wrong choices, and just plain dumb moves are all steps on my Bliss Path.
The way to see the path through the rubble is RAW GRATITUDE.

FEEL grateful for everything.
E V E R Y T H I N G.
Yes, Everything!
Feel it till you weep, and then you laugh to keep from crying.
Crygasms and laughgasms, and gratitude-gasms.
RAW Gratitude-gasms.
And that is Diva Carla’s Thanksgiving Day (and everyday) wish for you:

that you will pause and feel grateful for the very worst thing that is happening in your life right now. Sit with your own loving Self and express thanksgiving for the disaster, the fearful situation, the loss, the mistake, the fight, the scarcity, the pain and suffering, the struggle, the unanswered question, the depression--
as well as your joy, your dance, your feast!

For this is your Deep Bliss Path.
And I love you for it.

See yourself as I see you, Sunshine.

LET THE SUNSHINE IN!

One of the blessings of this week has been to actively join Diva Mama Nut TmuAnkh in her Operation Liberation Mission to support women recovering from domestic abuse and sexual assault as well as incarcerated men and women. Many of our brothers and sisters have chosen Bliss Paths that lead through dark shadows indeed. Read more about Operation Liberation and Hold these people in your blessing today. Make a gift now or in the future if you feel so moved.

And please visit My Thanksgiving Gift Page for two yummy downloads that will garnish your Thursday, holiday or not, like whipped cream on pumpkin pie.

With Pleasure,
Diva Carla
207-619-DIVA
http://orgasmicalchemy.com


 



 

The Beauty of Pollination

The Bee loving on the Honeysuckle is my Orgasmic Alchemy emblem. The Bee also symbolizes my ecosexuality. Bees pollinate and make honey, which they are often willing to share with two legged and other creatures. They are a keystone to life on earth. Yet they are not the only pollinators. Please enjoy this gorgeous film taken from a TED talk on

The Beauty of Pollination

 

View the full TED talk with Louie Schartzberg HERE.

And here is Maine's Own Christy Hemenway of Gold Star Honeybees sharing passionate news about bees, the environment, and beekeeping at TEDxDirigo.com this summer.

Turning off the Electric Fence

I am an expert on shame. I lived inside a very small playing field of my own creation, fenced in by shame I didn't even know about.

A couple of years ago I confronted my own shame for perhaps the first time in my life. The home  and community--Southern Baptists--operated on shame. It was how good people behaved, honoring the Lord with their shame before him. My shame was so ingrained that I felt shame about being alive. Having any desire. All of my life felt like a f-uck up.

Not very DIVA of me, right? YES it’s total, full-frontal DIVA. I admit I did not have the courage to strip myself bare and face my shame. But when Divine Love itself peeled away my defenses, I stood there, naked in the presence of my Shame. I stared into my Shame. I rebuked it, which means, I denied its power over me. I recognized the great boulder that had blocked my path all my life had shrunk to the size of a tiny pebble. I picked it up for a souvenir, and walked on down the path. I wrote about this powerful moment in my blog. You can read it here.

In that moment I learned that shame is the doorway to transformation. I was elated. I thought I was done.

hahahaha! I was not done with shame, though blessedly, I usually recognize the signs that shame is blocking me from fulfilling my desire and living my luscious, powerful life. I can move through the door to my transformation--or not, as I choose. Shame is subtle, and persuasive, and sly.

It is at the root of resistance.

Chester Mainard, an extraordinary teacher about the body and soul, expressed it this way.

One of the tricky things about shame is that it is often invisible to the person experiencing it. Shame creates an “electric fence” within ourselves. Once you get shocked two or three times you stay back from the fence. The electricity can get turned off but you still don’t go near the fence anymore. When we are operating in our comfort zone we are actually operating inside the shame. Shame operates by avoiding the feeling of it, and it is tricky sometimes to notice what you are avoiding: “Oh, I’m not feeling anything right now.” That may be true or maybe shame is operating so well that you’ve learned to stay well inside that fence, not taking any risks that may result in the activation of the shame.

I see myself in this quote, Do you?

Shame’s invisible fence looks like avoidance, passivity, disarray, invisibility, hiding.
Shame looks like settling. I have heard shame say things like this:
“I am not that unhappy.”
“My se x life is O.K.”
“I am so busy!”
“I don’t need any help.”
“They won’t make it without me.”
“I can’t risk anything right now.”

Are you living inside an electric fence? How small is your comfort zone? Stretch out your hand. Let your imagination fly into your desire. How far does it go before shame talks you down?

What limits have your created on your pleasure? Your income? Your impact on the world? Inside your electric fence, you are kept small, in at least one area of your life, and probably many. Stop dying before you are dead. Stop limiting the magnificent possiblities of your life.

Where is your switch to turn off that electric fence? Where is your doorway to transformation and your fully-lived magnificent life?

(Hint: you can find it in your body.)

Your Sexuality and your Powerful Feminine Voice

Sometimes you check your voice mail, and something amazing is waiting for you.

That's how it was last week when I picked up a message from the extraordinary Linda Rivero.

Linda and I met at SEVEN, the powerhouse seminar and networking event with David Neagle and Suzanne Evans. This past Monday we met again, on the radio. Linda invited me to be her guest on her powerhouse radio show, Global Feminine Rising. Each week she interviews women creating opportunity and transformation for women on a global scale. You can listen live each Monday at 12 Noon Eastern time.

Here is our interview on Your Sexuality and Your Powerful Feminine Voice.

Linda Rivero is the founder and CEO of Global Action Network for Entrepreneurial Women, GaNEW for short. Her mission is to bring together women business leaders in the developing and developed worlds for exchange of resources, ideas, support, and mentoring. In Winter, 2012, you can travel to Senegal, West Africa, to help the local women build their Women's Literacy Center--so that they can learn to read themselves.

Does this stir your soul? Visit Linda's website for Volunteer Adventure Travel, and click on the Senegal Women's Literacy Project.

I am delighted to bring my message of empowered sexuality/empowered women to a global community with the mission of local economic and educational empowerment.

Thank you for the opportunity to speak, Linda.

More Sex than...

Anyone feels comfortable admitting.

Someone sent me this from the awesome website http://xkcd.com

Diva Carla LOVES this comic and definitely has more to say about it.

Stay tuned!